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A Time for Reflection # 49  

sexyldy1000 68F  
10139 posts
1/1/2019 9:23 am
A Time for Reflection # 49

As the page 📖 has turned from one year to the next, I like to sit back and reflect on things in terms of my time on this site and personally, out in the 'real world'.

2018 was an interesting year, filled with highs and lows.

People bickering on here about the proper use of blogs, erotic stories and the magazine section. Others complaining about being bombarded with unwelcomed 'dick pics'. Some trying to publicly shame those who couldn't accept No for an answer. The push to be #1 on the various blog lists. People 'threatening' to leave, then back-pedalling. Some who seem to thrive on drama, creating it and perpetuating it. Friendships made and lost.

Personally, I have discovered how much I enjoy the freedom to fill my 'space' the way that I am comfortable. I didn’t set out with a goal of achieving a certain number of ‘watchers’ 👀 nor do I post expecting a certain number of comments ✍️. However, whenever someone takes time 🕰 out of their day to stop by my space, it really is a bonus. 💯 never looked and felt so good.

I allowed myself to get drawn into the 'blog wars'. The pettiness of the 'she said, she said' nonsense really has no place on here. Going forward, I will not do that again. Unless something derogatory is directed at me personally, I will keep my mouth shut.

I also had the opportunity to travel 🏙 to some places I had only read about or seen on tv. I also enjoyed being a tourist in my own city and country. I am looking to do more this year.

I am an avid reader, signing out 10-12 books 📚 every 21 days. Many new authors caught my attention and have been added to my 'must-read list'.

Movies 🎥 are something else I enjoy, though some will argue otherwise. Amongst the 'gems' I saw were: 'Molly's Game'; 'The Book Club'; 'Crazy Rich Asians'; 'Sharkwater Extinction' and 'A Star Is Born'.

I lost a dear Aunt who was like a second Mother to me. She was the rock of the family and ruled with an iron fist. However I could talk to her about anything and I miss her dearly.

I also came face-to-face with my own mortality. I was told more than once, that I must have a guardian angel 👼🏻 looking out for me and that many don't survive. Seeing my specialist beaming from ear-to-ear while he told me that the reason I am still here is because I am a strong, resilient woman, is an image I will never forget. I am not totally out of the woods yet, but I can assure you, life is precious and should never be taken for granted. I will continue to get stronger and put myself first and foremost.

So why do I stay on here? Because I can. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. I do smile when I am told that I am 'way too normal' or 'far too nice' to be on here. I am me. I don't try nor pretend to be anyone else. Who you encounter on here, is the same woman who would meet 'out there'.

Today is the first day of 2019. I can’t wait to see how it unfolds!



sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 9:24 am

Do you pause to reflect on the past and to consider the future?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
1/1/2019 9:42 am

Only momentarily.. otherwise I'd tend to get bogged down in yesterday... THIS moment is the only one, I can control, and at best - it's an illusion that I have, complete control.
It sounds like you've had an interesting year with challenges that you've faced and overcome! Good luck here in blog land - it looks like you've got a loyal and growing following.
All the best for 2019! May health follow you every day! 😘❤️


scoupe42 60M

1/1/2019 9:44 am

happy new Year


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
1/1/2019 10:04 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Do you pause to reflect on the past and to consider the future?
Life in general has become filled with stuff, good and not so good, so there is little time to reflect on the past or to consider the future. Life also has a habit of interfering with future plans.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


lookingtoplay145 66M
128 posts
1/1/2019 10:11 am

Happy New Year and may you find all you are looking for in 2019.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
1/1/2019 11:07 am

Hi sexyldy1000.

thanks for sharing this post.

I hope that 2019 brings you what you are searching for...

I do reflect on the past...

the good and the bad...

I look forward to the rest of my life...

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Good luck!!!


mc_justmc 63M

1/1/2019 11:10 am

Happy New Year, I'm hoping 2019 will make me forget 2018.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
1/1/2019 12:49 pm

Happy New Year my friend and I hope your new year is filled with lots of love, happiness, great health and prosperity.

I am so sorry for you loss, as I have an aunt that I am very close with as well.

And to your reflection I think your words ring so very true for many of us here in blog land. And I hope this year is filled with happy things here in blog land and the bloggers who enjoy causing drama STOP once and for all so we can have peace..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


sexynewf61 62M
2876 posts
1/1/2019 3:21 pm

Happy New Year and wishing you all the best in 2019. Thanks again for the flirt, lol.

Please feel free to read my blog at Losnewf Thoughts


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 5:54 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Only momentarily.. otherwise I'd tend to get bogged down in yesterday... THIS moment is the only one, I can control, and at best - it's an illusion that I have, complete control.
    It sounds like you've had an interesting year with challenges that you've faced and overcome! Good luck here in blog land - it looks like you've got a loyal and growing following.
    All the best for 2019! May health follow you every day! 😘❤️
Yes living in the 'moment' is important.
Thank you for the good wishes. May peace, happiness and comfort surround you.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 5:54 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you . Yes without our health, what is there?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 5:55 pm

Thank you. Same to you!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 5:56 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Life in general has become filled with stuff, good and not so good, so there is little time to reflect on the past or to consider the future. Life also has a habit of interfering with future plans.
Ah so you are living 'in the moment'. A good approach if that's what is comfortable for you.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 5:57 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you my friend. May 2019 bring you all that you desire.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:03 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you. Wishing the same to you also.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:04 pm

    Quoting lookingtoplay145:
    Happy New Year and may you find all you are looking for in 2019.
Thank you. Since I am not looking for anything, it should be a successful year!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:05 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi sexyldy1000.

    thanks for sharing this post.

    I hope that 2019 brings you what you are searching for...

    I do reflect on the past...

    the good and the bad...

    I look forward to the rest of my life...
Thanks Easy.
Not searching for anything, so it should be a successful year!
Best to you also.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:06 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Happy New Year, I'm hoping 2019 will make me forget 2018.
Thanks and same to you! I think a lot of us would like to forget 2018.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:06 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you Jack. Best to you in 2019.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:09 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    Happy New Year my friend! I wish you the best for 2019, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger my friend!

    The nonsense on here never ends my friend, I am ashamed to have been part of the drama in the past, but we can't change the past, but now we have to confront this issue head on, time for change here hopefully enough people feel the same.
Yes my friend. "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger' is a mantra I have lived by for many years. It's important to take a stand for things that are important to you. And you know others will have your back.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:11 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Happy New Year my friend and I hope your new year is filled with lots of love, happiness, great health and prosperity.

    I am so sorry for you loss, as I have an aunt that I am very close with as well.

    And to your reflection I think your words ring so very true for many of us here in blog land. And I hope this year is filled with happy things here in blog land and the bloggers who enjoy causing drama STOP once and for all so we can have peace..
Thank you my friend. Your kind words are appreciated. Let's hope 2019 is a better year here and 'out there' in our real lives.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/1/2019 6:12 pm

    Quoting sexynewf61:
    Happy New Year and wishing you all the best in 2019. Thanks again for the flirt, lol.
Best to you also in 2019!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/2/2019 6:41 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you! Best to you also in 2019!


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
1/2/2019 7:54 am

Marvelous observations!!! I wish you nothing but goodness and health in 2019. Personal healthy steps and freshness are yours for the taking.
The blog bashing will go on but I for one will stay away from it- it is not healthy and I need ,like you, every good day I can get.

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sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/2/2019 9:45 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Marvelous observations!!! I wish you nothing but goodness and health in 2019. Personal healthy steps and freshness are yours for the taking.
    The blog bashing will go on but I for one will stay away from it- it is not healthy and I need ,like you, every good day I can get.
Thank you 🙏 for your kind words and support.
Yes, I refuse to get dragged down into the muck. But do not mistake it for complacency. I hope 2019 brings you all that you desire.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
1/3/2019 7:42 am

This has been linked to January Symposium Topic

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sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/3/2019 7:46 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    This has been linked to January Symposium Topic
Terrific! Thank you 🙏. Someday, I will get you to walk 🚶‍♀️me through the process. Have a great day😊


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/3/2019 8:30 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you for your kind words and support.
I am a firm believer that 'God doesn't give you more than you can handle'. 2018 was a tough here but all I can do is keep looking forward.
I know the year is off to a tough start for you but it will get better!


rick315875 65M

1/4/2019 11:36 am

When I saw the word reflection I thought of this song

Reflections - Diana Ross and the Supremes - Lyrics
https://youtu.be/Y_NnXjMBwLQ


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/4/2019 12:08 pm

    Quoting rick315875:
    When I saw the word reflection I thought of this song

    Reflections - Diana Ross and the Supremes - Lyrics
    https://youtu.be/Y_NnXjMBwLQ
Really? Well that’s a ‘blast from the past’. Thanks 🙏 for stopping by.


HermanG67 56M
8464 posts
1/5/2019 1:35 pm

this is the perfect way to run your blog.... YOUR WAY!

hope you have a fantastic 2019


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/5/2019 2:00 pm

    Quoting HermanG67:
    this is the perfect way to run your blog.... YOUR WAY!

    hope you have a fantastic 2019
Thank you 🙏 for stopping by and for the good wishes. Let’s hope 2019 is a good year for everyone.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/5/2019 7:42 pm

I took a chance writing ✍️ this and sharing some of my most personal thoughts 💭. It felt good to do so and I appreciate 🙏 how others have been responding to it.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/6/2019 2:57 am

Have you shared anything very personal on here? Any regrets?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/6/2019 1:37 pm

Gee, 🤔 nobody had any stories or is nobody reading this?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/6/2019 8:32 pm

Thinking 🤔 about what to write ✍️ next. Not sure if it will be a general information piece or something else. Any suggestions?


CynicusMaximus 52M
1844 posts
1/7/2019 2:55 am

Werd.

I am with you all of the way with this blog post.

I have been a peripheral pressence here for a while and don't like to make waves and i enjoy keeping to myself. So, the battle for top blog has never been a goal and I'm a little grouchy that i showed up on the list of bloggers now.. but same as you. I'm just here because i want to be here and have no goals for world domination.

Most of my reading was spent on articles on science, politics and maybe some form of sub-literature geared at rotting my brain.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/7/2019 4:33 am

    Quoting CynicusMaximus:
    Werd.

    I am with you all of the way with this blog post.

    I have been a peripheral pressence here for a while and don't like to make waves and i enjoy keeping to myself. So, the battle for top blog has never been a goal and I'm a little grouchy that i showed up on the list of bloggers now.. but same as you. I'm just here because i want to be here and have no goals for world domination.

    Most of my reading was spent on articles on science, politics and maybe some form of sub-literature geared at rotting my brain.
Thank you 🙏.
I agree, it’s important that we all decide how we want to spend our time here. Seems that some never really figure that out.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/7/2019 2:56 pm

I will continue to march 🚶‍♀️to the beat of my own drum🥁


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/8/2019 8:14 pm

While it’s important to look 👀 back, it’s more important to keep your eyes 👀 forward and determine your own destiny.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/9/2019 8:15 pm

Since I wrote this, more people have decided to watch my blog. Am now up to 110. Thank you 🙏 to everyone.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/10/2019 3:02 pm

No one has the right to tell you whether or not you belong on here. Stay true to yourself!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/11/2019 2:54 pm

Was so darn frigid 🥶 here today, need something to warm ☀️me up. Perhaps writing a ‘hot’ 🥵 story would help? Nah, it’s only a poor substitute for a warm body to snuggle up to 😱


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/12/2019 4:07 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you for your kind words.
I agree that often it's a tragedy or having to face our own mortality as the result of illness, accident or other, that makes us take stock of what's really important to us. We should live each day to the best of our abilities as we do not if there will be a tomorrow.
Best to you also in 2019.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/14/2019 12:00 am

Follow up appointments 👨‍⚕️on January 31 and 2 in early February. Trying not to stress 😱 but it’s hard not to.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/17/2019 8:53 am

The January blues can be tough. Keeping strong and focused on positive things.


JoshRook7 27M

1/19/2019 12:07 am

Increasing communication between the past, present, and future self is how you direct change in yourself over time.

Keep reflecting!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/19/2019 8:39 am

    Quoting JoshRook7:
    Increasing communication between the past, present, and future self is how you direct change in yourself over time.

    Keep reflecting!
That’s a good philosophy to live by. Thanks 🙏 for stopping by and commenting.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/20/2019 2:11 am

When freezing 🥶 cold and snow ❄️ keep you confined indoors where it’s cozy and warm 🧣, it gives you lots of opportunity to reflect 🤔 about the past, present and future.


FMAOPLS 70F
27112 posts
1/22/2019 8:25 pm

I think I need to go back and review my 2018 in this fashion - just so I can list all the positive things that happened.

I'm curious what new authors you have just discovered.

Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/23/2019 5:00 am

    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    I think I need to go back and review my 2018 in this fashion - just so I can list all the positive things that happened.

    I'm curious what new authors you have just discovered.
It is a different way to think about the past year.
‘New’ authors were ones I was not previously familiar with not necessarily newly published. Some of them were: Brian Freeman, Amanda Quick, Jane Ann Krentz, Kelly Armstrong, Linda Castillo, Kate Ellis, J.T. Ellison, Sophie Hannah, Paula Hawkins, Dave Henson, Louise Penny, Kathy Reichs and John Sanford.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/27/2019 11:41 am

Cold, snowy wintery day. Perfect way to spend it is snuggled up with a good book 📖 . What do others do on a day like this?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/28/2019 2:45 am

Hit a bit of a wrirer’s ✍️ block. Time to re-think 🤔 and figure out what I should post next. Any suggestions?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/1/2019 1:59 pm

Received great news at Doctor’s appointment. Next hurdle is on the 6th and 14th. Fingers crossed ✌🏻they go equally as well and I get a new lease on life.


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