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eastjackctyman2 65M
23 posts
7/7/2017 9:12 am

Makes no difference at all. What gets me about this site is the "rules" people set up about whether you are married or not, whether you are bi or bi-curious or not. As you stated above, we are all here for basically the same thing. SEX! So what does the rest matter?


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
7/7/2017 9:15 am

What do you mean by "this site"? I know Various Inc run a number of "introduction sites", but are they all kept separate? I mean are the blogs to Passion kept distinct from AdultXXXDate?

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pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
7/7/2017 9:20 am

Anyone with a modicom of intelligence realizes that it makes ZERO difference.

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
7/7/2017 9:27 am

What difference does it make? From what I've seen absolutely zero, zilch, nada, nothing. I've been doing this online dating thing since the late 90s and on "sex sites" since 2013. There are quite a few women on both - they have said so here and I have seen them (a limitation being that you can't see the same parts on 'vanilla site" as here) and I've been out with at least 4 of them.

So the pools are essentially very similar. With the pool (people) being similar the wants/needs are likewise similar. The difference is the types of tool (meetin/dating sites are just tools for communicating) it is just a matter of which tool you choose. Do I use the stubby Phillips screwdriver on my old pos Pontiac or do I want a long Phillips screwdriver? Yeah that was conspicuously suggestive about the length of the "screwdriver" you want.

And, based on what I've read here the same men are on both types of sites. The only difference between these "sex site(s)" and conventional/vanilla meeting/dating sites is the sexual aspect of meeting/dating is out in the open and not a hush-hush, snicker-snicker thing. (BTW I put the snicker-snicker thing there so you would be craving a Snickers bar.)

Those who don't get that probably aren't getting something else.

OK, now I'm hungry - where can I get a good bear claw around this hood?

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FMAOPLS 70F
27112 posts
7/7/2017 10:06 am

Other than to create the premise of a great and insightful post, anyone who is stupid enough to think that way isn't worth the second it takes to discount their opinion as meaningless.

I love the analogy of bakeries and bread. If you were lucky enough to find an excellent and tasty loaf of a bread, at a discount store - does that mean you shouldn't enjoy it, warm and slathered with butter and fresh home-made jam, because you didn't buy it in a bakery? Of course not.

There are a lot of men out there, who are total idiots. Do you really want anything to do with someone who adheres to this stone-age, neanderthal thinking?

See? He eliminated himself from the race.

Darwinism, at its best.

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GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
7/7/2017 10:07 am

Sometimes there is an inference of what one site has to offer over another. I know of a few instances from this site and its sister site ALT. that have made marriages made in heaven, but I agree they are very few and far between. When I see ads on tv from other sites, they try to portray perhaps what one is seeking. For example, one site tries to promote finding your 'perfect' soul mate so that you can spend eternity together. Other sites promote themselves of finding a person just like you or what you are seeking. Other sites promote say 'spiritual' being of that's what you seek. This site used to have a banner that stated that THIS site was the worlds LARGEST dating and SEX site. The banner has been removed for more than two years now, but thats what it used to say. Over 25 million members.... but we all know how this site is when it comes to counting or data.

So perhaps it is the persona or stigma that is attached to it......


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
7/7/2017 10:11 am

I don't think it's about the site so much, as it is what we all make of the sites we use..Have a great weekend hun..

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
7/7/2017 11:15 am

    Quoting  :

Hummm . . . now you getting into the Zen (or is it Tao) of screwdrivers. See the screwdriver, be the screwdriver. Ooohhhmmm

Ya know, with all the nuts that have been displayed here I imagine this is a good place for Snickers. Sometimes you feel like grabbing nuts, sometimes you are the nut.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
7/7/2017 11:24 am

The 3rd person to message me on a "vanilla site" was a guy off here
The first 2 messages were basically " fancy a shag"


LiveLifeDoU 69F  
2199 posts
7/7/2017 11:28 am

Welcome back!

I don't really care what the purpose of this site is....I have heard the same old, same old that you post here....the 'what are you doing here if you don't want random, hot sex?' I have gotten weary of men only wanting sex...cyber or a quick, real life hook up...Live and let live, to each their own, etc. I don't put them down for what they want and are looking for; I expect the same in return. As far as other sites go...though I have limited experience (because my pocketbook refuses to shell out hard earned cash for something that gives absolutely no returns at all), at least one other site is even worse than this one in regards to fakes. And it's a highly advertised site lol

As we all know in Blogland, it pretty much doesn't matter what you post as long as it's not violent and vicious....and when you read the variety of posts, it does show ppl are interested in many things, including, but not limited to, sex. Even baseball and football scores lol

So, most of my blogs are of my art...erotic and otherwise.


wickedeasy 74F
32404 posts
7/7/2017 12:48 pm

YIPPEE.........sorry, I just have to keep saying that

so do we really think that Christian sites are all god fearing church goers or that the pickins are better on a site where you fill out a 20 page questionnaire on income and emotional needs? a cigar is still a cigar.

one site sells marriage, one sells sex. both sites are exactly the same in the end because on either one, you get the same possibility....finding someone wo thinks you are interesting enough to meet.

and if you're not giving it up, or you are giving it up........that's a choice no matter where you're posting.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
7/7/2017 5:32 pm

It shouldn't make a bit of difference but you knoooow how sommme people are....

It takes a lot of bread to buy tires. Mine are $220.00 each and that doesn't even include mounting and balancing.

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40Deuce 46M
5725 posts
7/7/2017 5:32 pm

Making damned bread is pretty hard - forged in darkness from wheat harvested in Hell's half-acre , sugar from the evil stalks of a powerful dark sugar cane , beaten into form by the hands of a one-eyed madman , yeast boiled from the rancid teat of a three-headed fanged cow , layered with 666 separate waters from rivers of blood and maggots , baked by Beelzebub himself .

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smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
7/7/2017 7:24 pm

Agreed, you nailed it and aflower2c nailed it. That has been one of my disappointments with this site - I met a few men who I liked and got along with, and would have been interested in spending time with on an ongoing basis - but most of the time once they achieved their objective (getting laid) they were on to the next conquest.

It's actually kind of a relief to hear from other women who have experienced the same thing...because after a while you start to think "maybe it's me, maybe nobody wants go beyond a hookup because I'm not likable or desirable".


redhotfun4you2 61F  
1596 posts
7/7/2017 9:06 pm

Awesome post!!! I completely agree with your view on it. I have said a few times that we can meet people anywhere. One of my first posts was about this very topic to a degree.

What I like about this site as apposed to "that" site is that here I can talk more openly about sexual desires and it is not taboo. I know of a few people who have met their partners from this site and who are very happy. I have made some wonderful friends here who I don't think I would be friends with had we met through "that" site. And here you get to know others through their blogs, or their comments to blogs. Don't think "that" site even has a blog section

I will try to get caught up on the rest of the posts I have missed while I have been busy with my crazy life...


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
7/8/2017 11:08 am

Sticking with your store analogy, this place is the mega-store, has people looking for the full range of options, one-night quick fuck partners to lifetime companions.

And as far as not getting serious about someone you met here (and presumably is therefore a "sexual" person at some level), well consider the other end of the spectrum (the total asexual) and the absurdity of that position for anyone that is here quickly becomes clear.

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Dick4001567 64M
3941 posts
7/9/2017 6:08 pm

As I've stated before LaLa I am here on this site ONLY to blog and on that other site to DATE big difference!


cs1df2 41M
1463 posts
7/10/2017 3:10 pm

I must either be broken or just overly logical in my thinking as this seems like the better place -- primarily because it's the more honest and least censored one. .. I mean wouldn't you rather have an idea of what kind of freak the other person is before you decide to get serious? Otherwise, it'd seem like trying to build a relationship on lies ..... and that's not exactly a solid foundation to build something serious on.....

For the record I go to Walmart for my tires (love the road hazard warranty especially since Walmart is basically nationwide)..... and Walmart typically does have a bakery. (Just thought I'd share given the thought crossed my mind that I do indeed go to a "bakery" to buy my tires)


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
7/11/2017 9:51 pm

Absolutely nothing wrong with being here. It is my dating site of choice. However, I understand the attitude those who are not familiar with AdultXXXDate may have. For those who are not bloggers and group chatters this is essentially a porn site. It is a place to watch amateur porn videos, chat with cammers, look at naked pictures and read erotica...a site to come to for masturbatory material and to be masturbatory material. That is also the first impression most people have when they visit AdultXXXDate. People can't help but think differently about someone (men and women) who pose sexually or nude in a profile picture than fully clothed like on a vanilla site..or whose more discreet picture is along side of a picture of someone's genitalia.

Hang around here a while, explore the blogs, join local groups and frequent chatrooms and you realize this is also a site used to actually meet people, not just for sex, but for dating, romance and friendship. Relationships of all kinds, online and off, develop with a diverse group of people. It offers more than the vanilla sites which pretty much are just where people go to meet potential people to go out with usually, seeking monogamous relationships. Sex is often desired, but not initially evident or talked about.

I'm on the OK site and I have to admit I get more annoyed by men who come on to me sexually in their initial emails there than here. Somehow it seems creepier. Though admittedly, I am honest in the questions pertaining to sex which gives the impression I am no prude.😊

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Jizz4u66 57M

7/13/2017 8:34 pm

Nothing is wrong about being on this site. We're all adults - got my doubts on certain people but that's another story- and make our own decision and choice. I know I'm here because I enjoy chatting, read blogs, exchange and discuss opinions and, of course, for some intimate moments (cam) and occasional meeting. Does it sound wrong to me? Nahhh. Does it looks weird sometimes? Maybe... I don't know... I feel comfortable with my choices and the rest doesn't really matter!

Kisses to you beautiful Bigglala. 😘


1EA2 58F
1425 posts
7/14/2017 9:26 am

Bravo! Excellent post. I have heard it explained that men's brains are like a box with several smaller boxes inside. The boxes touch but don't intertwine, so to speak. if information is in one box it can not be put into another box even if it would theoretically fit both.
Women's minds are a box and multiple boxes inside the bigger one. However, all of our boxes have lines that connect all the boxes so they can all be going on at one time. Our 'love' box connects with the 'erotic' box and even the 'home maker' box. So our feelings can easily connect every single one of the boxes where as the men's boxes do not touch under any circumstances.
Regardless of when they learned, many men still have that hint that women that own their sexuality aren't the ones you take home to Mamma or marry. A woman can't jump from box to box in a man's mind. Many lose out on a very fulfilling relationship because of some antiquated idea of women and sexuality. Sadly, most don't realize they are holding on to that idea. IMO


Cordonrouge5 59M  
109 posts
7/20/2017 12:27 am

I think that the main difference between this site and, say, Eharmony or Match.com is the fact that people state their sexual preferences up front. Personally, I still think all the dating customs and rituals still apply, i.e. meet for a drink first, go out a few times, and then, if the passion is there, the clothes come off. Once that happens, you already have a good idea how to please the other person and, in turn, get your satisfaction, too.

I hear from a lot of ladies I've talked to that most guys send initial messages like "Let's fuck right now", Right away the guy has shot himself in the foot and ruined any chance of EVER meeting the lady or getting her out of her panties. What's the hurry? Take your time. Getting there is a huge part of the fun. If you treat a woman right you might have sex a bunch of times with her and not the one quickie.


gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
7/20/2017 4:11 pm

Makes no difference at all, although I ain't gonna be tellin her mother where we met.

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citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
7/20/2017 4:27 pm

I've actually been told that I'd have more chance of finding a date on other sites. I'm only on this one and I like the blogging aspect which you don't find on other sites (as far as I know?)


99looking 60M
186 posts
7/29/2017 3:07 pm

I concur with "papis_baby_girl" with one exception. Some men "do" read all the comments in blogs, however, we do get distracted quite often We get points for commenting on blogs? Damn!


Hotwithyou1961 52M

7/30/2017 7:55 pm

Having been on Ned off this site for 18 years, I do keep returning because, in spite of the huge number of people that really do not intend to meet, there are a few, but it does take along time to find them.


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